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剛剛好的自由:自律才能享受自由,讓孩子成為負責任的大人 (尚瑞君)

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剛剛好的自由:自律才能享受自由,讓孩子成為負責任的大人 (尚瑞君): family 2024 2021 2024

作者: 尚瑞君


       
要自由,也要承擔責任。能負起責任,才能真獨立。
把給予孩子的關愛和能量,成為他們展現自我與自律的力量。

  當孩子來到青春期,這是親子關係的期中考。

  對於青少年,父母該管還是不管?放手的尺度該如何拿捏?這個問題沒有絕對的標準答案,需視每個孩子的個別狀況而定。但能確定的是,在自由與自律之間找到剛剛好的平衡,並懂得負起自己的責任,是孩子邁向獨立成熟的成人時必要的學習。

  超人氣親子作家尚瑞君,書寫教養文章已有十多年的時間,如今兩個兒子也已成為高中生與大學生。在本書中,她告訴父母如何在給予青少年自由與設立界限之間拿捏得宜,在孩子需要幫忙時才出手,其他時候則要放手讓孩子自己選擇與負責,讓他們學會獨立自主和情緒管理,培養面對未來挑戰的能力,日後長成他也會喜歡的自己。

  此外,青春期孩子動不動就發脾氣或唱反調的叛逆行為,是最令父母最頭痛的教養難題,作者也經歷過這些情緒風暴。她以過來人的經驗,分享如何自我抽離,不被孩子影響心情,並以冷靜與理性的反應,化解親子衝突的諸多方法。

  ——在自由與管教間的平衡之道——
  *「生氣」是本能,「管理情緒」是本領。
  面對孩子狂暴不受控的情緒,父母可以全身而退的方式,就是離開現場,讓自己先安定下來,不要接收孩子的情緒,也讓孩子在安全的環境中自己整理情緒。之後再陪著孩子學習如何從直覺的「表現情緒」,轉為能夠省視內心感受的「表達情緒」。

  *管教,不是要讓孩子怕你,你也無須擔心孩子生氣。
  不管是孩子怕父母,還是父母怕孩子,只要在彼此之間出現「怕!」的感受或疑惑,都會讓親子不敢跟對方溝通。孩子其實在乎的是大人用什麼態度對他,當你尊重青少年是一個慢慢走向成熟的個人時,他就會漸漸有著成熟的行為和心智。

  *教養需要「忍一下」、「停一下」、「等一下」。
  當孩子正在學習當自己的主人,父母要告訴自己「忍一下」。當孩子有自己的個性出現時,父母要告訴自己「停一下」。在孩子越來越會說話與表達自己意見的時候,父母要選擇「等一下」,先聽孩子說。

  *遠離情緒勞動,媽媽偶爾也需要出走。
  過度付出會衍生過度的控制與焦慮,讓媽媽總擔心自己做得不夠多、不夠好,但其實常是自己付出太多,超越界線,讓孩子失去練習自我管理的機會。要自我檢視,是不是花太多心思在孩子身上,卻忘了關照自己呢?


作者

尚瑞君
 
  中興大學(現為台北大學)法學士、中山大學政治所碩士。
  《未來family》官網專欄作家、《媽媽經》駐站作家。
  2024年博客來上半年親子類銷售同時榮獲第一、第八、第十名作家。
  是老師和家長認同與喜愛的親職作家,也是各出版社喜歡邀約一起推薦好書與推廣閱讀的知識份子。
  著有:《剛剛好的管教》、《剛剛好的距離》、《剛剛好的溫度》、《家有中學生的解憂之書》(以上皆由時報文化出版)、《優雅教養》、《淬鍊幸福,剛剛好的回憶練習》、《陪孩子好好說話》
  臉書專頁:《尚瑞君之愛傾聽解讀心》
  2021-2024年,蟬聯博客來親子教養類百大暢銷書作家
  願文字的溫潤,能傳遞世間的善與愛,讓人們好好珍惜與經營每一個來到生命面前的緣分。
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